You’re out with some of your good peoples grabbing a drink shooting the breeze. You’re having such a relaxing time catching up, telling jokes, and having a good laugh. Suddenly, someone catches your eye from across the room and you have the urge to just meet him/her. All of your focus is now on that person and you try to plot how you’re going to make a move. The music seems to lower and becomes faint, the voices in the room all sound muted, and now as your friends are talking, all you’re doing is nodding your head making them think you’re paying attention.
All you want to do is meet him/her and possibly get noticed just like you noticed them. You’re wondering how you’re going to get the opportunity to introduce yourself and how to start a conversation. You’re also wondering how you’re going to sound when words come out of your mouth because now, adrenaline is pumping and so are your nerves. Your mouth is suddenly parched from the nervousness and your sweating from the the rush.
Does this sound like familiar territory to you? Is this something you experience when you want to meet someone? These little jittery feelings happen to everyone and are the same feelings that sometimes cause you to miss out on your chance on seeing what could have been. You get so nervous that the rest of the evening isn’t fun anymore with your friends because you’re mentally preoccupied with something else. The only thing that’s going to make it better is if you try and make a move, but there’s fear of rejection, and you don’t want that to ruin your night either. It’s a vicious cycle and now you are just stuck!
The problem with this is you lose so much more if you don’t take your chances. Your fear can make you…
• Lose the opportunity to at least gain a new acquaintance
• Miss the chance to see what could have been
• Not take advantage of the experience of strengthening your fears
• Go home with a possible lifelong wonder of what could have happened if you just said hi…REGRET!
You don’t want to be haunted because of fear. I’m going to go over ways to break the ice and meet someone in another post, but for now I’m going to say you just have to take a step back, take a deep breathe, and just go with it. Change your thought process. The main question you always have to ask yourself is “what is the absolute worst that can happen??” If you’re on a journey to meet someone, you’re alone anyway, and you’re never going to really have this opportunity again, there is absolutely NOTHING to lose. If rejected, you will be the same exact person you were before you tried and you realize you’re ok and stronger. You get to finally say “wow that wasn’t so bad and I kind of liked the rush.” If not rejected, you now have a bonus in your life and that bonus is the opportunity to see where the opportunity goes.
Take every opportunity you can. You only live once and you don’t want to ever look back and ask “what if?”