Sex Sells Just Don’t Oversell It

Miley Cyrus Wrecking Ball Nude Video

Sex Sells

It helps get all the attention and there’s no doubt that the person getting all the attention these days is Miley Cyrus. She is all over the place. I don’t and never really have followed her much. Even though there’s always been a buzz about her, I don’t remember hearing about her as much as I do now.

I hear Miley Cyrus’ name everywhere. It’s being said on every radio station, on the news on TV, and sometimes I’ll even hear her name being said a few cubicles away while coworkers are talking about her. I can’t even have dinner while the TV is on without hearing her name. I was listening to AM news radio this morning while they were discussing the Government Shutdown and they brought her up as well. I thought that was pretty funny because they said more people are probably clicking on pictures of Miley Cyrus on the internet than clicking their way to get insurance on the Health Insurance Marketplace. She is around in every way possible.

Is there anything wrong with what she is doing? Not at all. It’s entertainment, it’s working for her, and she also has an album to sell. She is among many others that rode the attention train. Plain and simple, SEX JUST SELLS. It always has and it always will.

I mean look at her outfit during the iHeart Radio festival?? She is selling hardcore! Yeah it might be revealing but I don’t find it that appealing.

Miley Cyrus Concert Revealing See Through
Image Credit: Kevin Mazur/Getty Images

So why am I talking about Miley when it comes to overselling sex? My recent experience with her new song “Wrecking Ball” reminded me of how a man or even a woman can let the idea of sex cloud the true priorities of that initial meeting or date with someone.

I didn’t initially hear her song, but saw the video first. I am going to be completely honest and tell you that I did not hear the song at all while watching the video. The whole time it was playing I kept asking myself “what is the next scene going to look like and how much crazier is she going to get in this video?“, because she is practically naked the whole time. I did kind of notice that her vocals were good though. In shock, I showed my wife and she was like “ummmmm why?” and she basically didn’t hear the song either.

In case you haven’t seen the video, here it is:

The next morning Z100 talked about Miley’s video and then played the song. I am going to be honest again and say that I ended up really liking the song. It has great lyrics, meaning, and good emotion behind it, but the video prevented me from appreciating the content. I had to hear the song and only the song to really appreciate it because of the flashy video. That could have been the video of a rock or rap song and I guarantee it would have still looked appealing.

How does this relate to you? Well you might not have an album to promote, but what you do have is your beautiful personality and mind to promote. Promote it like Miley and no one is going to uncover that at first. You want to strengthen your chances of finding the right person out here in this world. As you can see, if your focus is about overselling yourself, visually, then you might not get what you’re looking for when it comes to love and relationships. You will for sure get physical/sexual attention. If that’s the kind of attention you’re looking for then you’re good to go.

I’m not saying that you shouldn’t get all sexy to attract people, but my point is this. Be careful with how you present yourself. You don’t want someone too distracted and you don’t want them thinking about the wrong “light” at the end of the tunnel. How would you feel if you are completely engaged in conversation while the other person, in his mind, is curious about your cleavage, what color panties your wearing, and if he is thinking “hmmm I wonder if she will notice that I keep looking down her shirt or up her skirt?

Remember ladies, keep it sexy yet classy. You want the man to have an imagination of what he does not see yet and to keep them on their toes. Trust me this will give you the upper hand and help them stay engaged in what’s actually coming out of your mouth and will help them appreciate you more all around. You also want to lure him in with everything…mind, body, and soul. I’m not an expert on women’s style, but I stumbled upon a great read on how to be sexy yet classy by Christina DeBusk over at

What are some experiences where you noticed a friend or even you not having the outcome you wanted when being overly sexy and revealing on a date?

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